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Coaching for the ADHD Whispers

I am an ADHD Whisperer…

I am your ADHD Whisperer…and I Hear Your Whispers

‘Do I have ADHD’, you whisper to yourself when no one can hear you. Why can’t I pay attention? What’s wrong with me? Why do people get so angry with me? What am I doing wrong?

Maybe you have ADHD and if you do you are a survivor and it’s time to thrive.

I hear your whispers:

I’m afraid, I’m not smart, I’m confused, Something is wrong with me, I’ve felt like something is wrong for so long that nothing feels right anymore…

Your whispers are the real source of your strength. The opposite of every whisper is the truth…

I’m brave, I’m smart, I understand, All is right in my world. 

 

With a calm, down-to-earth, and natural manner, Maureen Nolan, LAPC aka the ADHD Whisperer connects to clients using methods like centering and deep breathing.  Her adept interpersonal skills permit Maureen to communicate to clients a new level of self-respect using the principle of Gradual Progress of Mind.  Capable of perceiving the nuances of body language and the movement of the brain, she helps clients develop a new belief in themselves and hope for the future.  She speaks a language built on respect and compassion, and every individual feels the confidence she has in him or her to be led out of the maze.

Maureen knows whispers are more important than yelling.

It is easy to compare the ADHD Whisperer to a horse or dog whisperer and the comparison is valid. A Whisperer uses his or her knowledge of the mammal brain and mind and gently applies it to the errant behavior being discussed. A client’s intentions behind the behavior are regularly misinterpreted by others in their lives causing grief and sadness. Maureen whispers that there is hope for the future.

ADHD is a human explanation of an irregularity in thought and movement. It shows up in a neuro-diverse person when least expected. Children and untreated adults do not know why they do the things they do but an astute observer like Maureen will discern the true nature of their intent and separate the truth from the myths or wild explanations that they have lived with for so long.

 

Contact Maureen Nolan, LAPC for your first Whisper session. 404-713-0488

My clients bring their secrets and sorrows, and their aspirations and challenges into our sessions. They are brave and bold enough to find out how to make changes in their lives. They are innately creative, resourceful, and strong and so are you.

Will you bring your whispers to life? Let your innate curiosity and creativity breathe and thrive with self-knowledge and new choices. What do you want? What do you need? Bring to life a new, true, and dynamic self by coaching with Maureen Nolan, LAPC.

I hear you whispering: Can Maureen help me? 

Call Maureen Nolan, LAPC now at 404-713-0488 and find out how she will help you. Coaching with Maureen is good for your health and your life.

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Attracted to Brains – Feeling Like a Zombie?

I’m attracted to anything with brains in it.

images-1A passing commented turned into ‘I’m attracted to anything with brains in it.’ Flashback to my tenth grade science class: sitting next to my lab partner newly from Cuba, I learned that people eat animal brains. It seems like she had a brain for snack food almost every day. I never asked for a taste.

Fast forward: the zombie culture resurrecting beings hungry for your brain. From wikipedia, zombie is ‘figuratively applied to describe a hypnotized person bereft of consciousness and self-awareness, yet ambulant and able to respond to surrounding stimuli.’ Now that may sound like you or someone you know.

Maureen Nolan, Your Attention Coach is currently accepting new clients with a brain. For coaching effectiveness, brains need to fit into the skull. However, large personalities are also accepted. This is not a hoax, just something to get your attention.

Contact Maureen Nolan, 404-713-0488 or maureen@yourattentioncoach.com today for an intact brain assessment for coachability.

I am interested in brains, your brain’s health in particular.

Attention Coaching as I practice it, has your brain at the center of the conversation. Can you do what you want to do? Can you do it in the time you want to achieve it in? Will you turn it in to the teacher, the boss, the partner, the spouse? If not, why not?

That’s where coaching comes in.

  • Leave coaching sessions with renewed intentions and revitalized integrity.
  • Arrive home or at work and complete a task.
  • Sleep well at night knowing the lights are off, the pets are in bed, the kids are clean, the dishes are done, the clothes are out for tomorrow, and your brain can rest, safe from zombies.

Maureen Nolan, Your Attention Coach, 404-713-0488, maureen@yourattentioncoach.com

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Does the Dalai Lama Live with ADHD?

Eastern Attention Develops in the West

The Dalai Lama

The Dalai Lama as a child

Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia is becoming known as Tibet West. Together with professors at Emory, the Dalai Lama has cultivated an academic exchange relationship spanning over twenty years. A goal of this academic and scientific collaboration of Emory professors and Tibetan monks is to develop a new scientific vocabulary in the Tibetan language in order for the monks and nuns to be able to learn cell biology, an academic topic never before offered to them. The Dalai Lama initiated this pairing to better understand the universe and the value of Buddhism as it applies to creation and to enlightenment (this is my interpretation of their mission in the west).

Biology and Buddhism

It seems that his holiness, the Dalai Lama, was given free reign over much of his time as a child living in the palace. There he roamed the palace rooms full of treasures, gifts from leaders across the world, and in one room he found a telescope. The Dalai Lama was curious and his tutors allowed his intelligence to lead his interests so that he developed an awareness and knowledge of the stars and science, previously not offered in Buddhist education. From that spark, he found his way to microscopes and became curious about cells and molecules and his curiosity led to a deeper desire to understand the world and science and hence, a deeper experience of Buddhism.

Intelligence and Attention

The child Dalai Lama was monitored by loving monks whose job was to develop in him an aesthetic sense of his place in the world, and to develop skills he would need to lead his people in both the spiritual and political life of Tibet. Nonetheless, he was allowed to drift and come upon what interested him. The same is true today. A story is told of him visiting Emory Hospital for a meeting. In order to get to the meeting, he had to walk down a long hall lined with people waiting for medical services. The Dalai Lama stopped to say something to every person in the hallway. That kindness is his natural inclination no matter who is waiting for him. The Emory escort finally had to insist the Dalai Lama conclude his visiting in the hallway in order to attend the meeting. It is my suggestion that his narrow attention to one thing appears to be a distraction to observers. His impulsive nurturing would be viewed as disruptive to some while others would see it as a kind behavior.

While the Tibetans are in exile, their leader pays attention to a compassionate relationship with Chinese oppressors. In so doing, he exports the Buddhist values of attention in its many forms, meditation as a type of healing attention, and exemplifies how to use attention in a difficult world.

It is a rare privilege today for our children to pay attention to what they are really interested in. Can you remove from your homes or their sports activities one of their daily distractions and observe how they then choose to use their attention? There may be a few ruffled feathers at first but with patience and nurturing your child may develop a new interest that cultivates their developing mind. In what room in your home will they discover their strengths and personal interests?

Your Attention Coach

Maureen Nolan

maureen@yourattentioncoach.com

 

 

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School and Calendars Are ADHD BFF

What The Research Says About Calendars

Did you know that…

Carry a Calendar with You

Having and using a daily calendar has a major impact on whether students will meet their daily responsibilities like getting to appointments and completing homework and chores!

Researchers taught a group of high school student to have and to use a calendar. Prior to the study students were getting very few of their responsibilities done (0% to 37%).

First, the students were allowed to pick out the calendar they liked and then asked to carry it every day.

If they had their calendar with them when the researchers asked, they got a point. The students had to be able to carry their calendars 5 days in row before they were ready for the next phase of the study.

When they learned the habit of carrying their calendar, they were then taught to write down their daily schedule including school assignments, chores, and appointments. The researchers then did daily spot checks to see if students had their calendars and had written everything down.

They were expected to do both of these tasks 5 days in a row and were given two points for accomplishing these tasks.

In the third phase of the study the researchers counted how many of the responsibilities written in the calendar the students actually completed each day. In this phase of the study, all the students improved dramatically in meeting their responsibilities: they completed 80% to 100% of their responsibilities.

So, just owning, carrying, and writing in a daily calendar can dramatically improve your ability to do what you need to do and get to appointments.

You can conduct a similar study on yourself.

  • Pick out a time management tool that matches your needs and your style. There are so many choices beyond paper planners: PDAs, on line calendars, software calendars, etc.
  • Look at the week before you started carrying and using a calendar and count how many of your responsibilities you met.

Then follow the phases used in the study:

Phase 1: just remember to have your calendar with you each day. Give yourself a point if you did. Once you have kept your calendar with you for 5 days in a row you are ready for phase 2.

Phase 2: now practice keeping your calendar. Include your assignments, studying, social engagements, chores etc. Give yourself 2 points a day if you both, had your calendar and wrote everything in it. When you have done this 5 days in a row you are ready for phase 3

Phase 3: at the end of each day count up how many of your responsibilities you met. Calculate the percentage of things you accomplished by dividing the total number of responsibilities into the actual number of those you met. How much have you improved from before you began using a calendar?

What do you need to do to keep in the habit of having and using your calendar?

Consider making an agreement with a friend to check on one another or work with a staff member from the Learning Center.

Flores, D. M., & Schloss, P. J. (1995). The use of a daily calendar to increase responsibilities fulfilled by secondary students with… Remedial & Special Education, 16(1), 38.
 
Submitted to me by a client with calendar challenges. Reprinted in entirety.
 
Maureen Nolan, Your Attention Coach
maureen@yourattentioncoach.com

 

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Transitions are an ADHD Challenge Right in Your Own Home

Energy Transitions Moving from Room to Room

My client remarked in session this week,

‘It’s a transition just for me to turn around and go to the next room!’

ADHD Coaching is the best job. I get to ask questions and I hear the most interesting comments. This client answered a question I hadn’t asked, like in Jeopardy:

A – ‘It’s a transition just for me to turn around and go to the next room!’
Q – What is the most frequent transition you manage?

Now I know why we forget what we’ve gone to retrieve from the next room – it’s an energy transition. It doesn’t even have to do with working memory but working energy fields. This is a topic for the physicists among you. Can you translate the energetic experience of leaving one room and entering another? Who among you will create an algorithm for me?

Living Styles are Designed for Forgetfulness

Red themed family space

Room decorators go to great design lengths to make the rooms in homes distinct in character and in a feeling essence. And those of us without decorators also try to have each room breathe a little different energy. To at least have some consistency in a theme, I put something red in every space, you know, to tie the spaces together thematically. But I never thought of tying them together for my memory issues. Does feng shui address this issue? I’ll google it and let you know.

What room transition design have you employed for your personal energetic consistency and capacity to remember? So you may walk from room to room and not forget your mission to find the scissors. How about a painted line from room to room?

Do you find yourself walking from room to room with your head down so you don’t get distracted before arriving in just the next room? What happens when you go under an archway? Don’t archways symbolize arrival, change, adventure and, ‘oh dear, what was I thinking about? Why am I here?’

I’m Distracted.

I’m Impulsive.

I’m Inattentive.

I’m Hyperactive.

I’m forgetful, too.

Do you design your life around your ADHD energies? Unlike traveling from our living rooms to our bedrooms, what is the attention theme that makes it possible for your transitions to keep you on track?

Contact Maureen Nolan, ADHD Coach, Atlanta, Georgia for practical strategies to save your transition energy.

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